As a Carmel Personal Stylist for more than 13 years, I have styled many clients for weddings, including mothers of the bride and groom, as well as other members of the wedding party. While it has often been just about the formal gown, shoes, purse, makeup, and jewelry, lately, wedding clients are asking for more help in managing a wedding with many events. Sometimes the occasion includes the rehearsal dinner, casual get-togethers, the wedding ceremony, and the brunch the morning after. Some weddings even have informal city-specific events for friends and family visiting, so clients want certain clothing for that as well.
In June, I was a family member in a multi-event wedding that lasted four days, concluding with a family brunch on the last day in another city. I wanted to share with you what I learned so you will be ready next time a wedding comes into your life! Finally, I can say from experience what you should think about when you’re going to a wedding that is more of a destination vacation!
Carmel Personal Stylist Tips for Multi-Event Weddings
First of all, don’t throw tradition to the wind! Some basic time-honored rules still apply.
Don’t wear white in any form. That means white, ecru, and even cream. Because of this rule, many people wear beige that I think can be very elegant. This rule is easy to follow. Do it!
On the other side of the spectrum, don’t wear a garishly bright color such as tomato red or neon yellow. Also, wear a pleasant print — not one that knocks your socks off. I don’t mind a black dress at a wedding, particularly if it is a gorgeous cut as one of my nieces wore. One exception is that at more ethnic weddings red is a tradition, and it’s fine for wedding guests to wear.
As you plan what you will wear, follow the typical rules for the cocktail formal dress code. Don’t be afraid to discuss with other family members what colors and styles they are wearing. Fortunately, my sisters-in-law shared what they were wearing with me, and it was so helpful. I ended up coordinating my color/style with them, and I am so glad I did. They wore dark blue, and I wore shades of blue. Fortunately, blue is one of my best colors as a true spring.
Be open to last minute adjustments to your outfit – I walked into the church with the processional at the wedding because my husband gave a Bible reading. I did not expect this, so I decided to buy a silver shawl to cover up my strapless dress. I thought that was more appropriate for the church. I also decided to bring a kitten heel shoe to wear during the reception.
Also, consider comfort. I did not wear a full-length ballgown as my family did. I know myself — I don’t like ballgowns, but I do like tea length, so I found a spectacular dress that was strapless and tea length. I used the store’s alterations department, and the fit was perfect. I also took my time and selected shoes that were stylish and comfortable! And don’t forget the coordinating formal purse. I selected a silver metallic envelope clutch. One of my sisters-in-law had an elegant floral bag I was coveting!
With bridal clothing, the cost of alterations may deter you. But consider this — you are altering a very special garment with fine thin fabric, not a pair of pants. Use the store’s alterations team or seek out a tailor who is an expert in working on these types of fashions. They will know how to alter silk, lace, or satin so it fits you and is comfortable.
One of my sisters-in-law put together a detailed itinerary for the wedding weekend. We went to three locations over the long weekend. Also, she organized family activities. What a gift! We were constantly referring to our phones, but always had complete addresses and a timeline to follow.
Some of the family had done a little research on the activities of this wedding since it was a different culture. Very helpful! For instance, we needed to cover our heads, arms, and feet during one of the services.
Don’t Forget to Enjoy the Wedding
Enjoy your family celebration. For my husband, it was the first time in six years he had seen all of his siblings together. Family is such a God-given gift. We’ll always remember this special wedding. Stay tuned for Carmel Personal Stylist guidance because we have another family wedding to attend later this summer.
Keep it sassy, Indy.
Beth Divine, MA, AICI-CIC, Personal Image Consultant
